Who are you? If someone asked you that, what would your response be? Would you say your name, your job, and your interests? Is that who you really are? To find out what defines you, you need to look within and assess yourself. That is the only way to find that answer.
As you begin digging down, I want you to think of different life events that have shaped you, positive and negative. We all have many of them, and we can attribute a lot of we are today to these situations. When I was really young, maybe 5 years old, I went to a PGA Tour event. At that age, the most exciting part was getting as many autographs as I could. I went up to one particular player and asked for his autograph. He denied me and said, “Not now, I’ve got to go tee off.” I was crushed. That was my first experience with rejection like that and it weighed on me for years, without even realizing it. It created a sentiment with me that I wasn’t good enough and always in the wrong place at the wrong time.
I am not that situation through, and it doesn’t define who I am today. Yes, it shaped me in as I grew up, but it’s not who I am. It has taken a lot to overcome that feeling, and I would be lying to say that it doesn’t come back from time to time. But I won’t let that situation define me. Through my own hard work and perseverance, I have proved to myself that I can do the things I set out to do, and if someone overlooks me, oh well, their loss.
The only thing that defines me, is me. The only thing that defines you, is you. Look within and seek out those experiences that have shaped you. Evaluate them, see how they have shaped you, and see what you can learn from them. Do not let them define you. If you have before, it’s time to take control.
What defines you? You define you. You can achieve whatever you want to achieve, as long as you believe you can. Start living.