In every area of life, you will find people who are ultra-competitive. Whether it’s a 5k fun run or doing the dishes, some folks just have a competitive drive to want to be the best and will stop at nothing to get there. While this can be a great trait to have, it’s not absolutely necessary in order to be successful, well, at least not in the sense of pushing over a 5-year-old to win the fun run. Harnessing your inner competitiveness can help your success, but the key is to harness it and use it the right way. Here’s how you can do that.
Your only competition is yourself. I’ll say that again, your only competition is yourself. That is the most important thing you need to remember. The sooner you recognize that, the better. You can do everything in your power to be successful, however, there will still be outside forces that can impact the outcome. Think about a farmer who takes amazing care of his soil, plants his seeds, gives them plenty of water, fertilizer, and sun, but then a storm comes and destroys his fields. He did everything he could, but unfortunately, he can’t control the weather, so he list is crop. Was he unsuccessful? I would argue no. He did everything in his power to ensure success, but something outside of his control ultimately decided his outcome for the season.
You need to want success for yourself. You don’t have to be competitive, but you do need to want to succeed. If you don’t care if you will succeed, you won’t succeed. If you want to lose weight, lift heavier, run faster, play with your kids, avoid the old folk’s home, you need to want those things and know why you want those things. This is harnessing your inner competitiveness. “I want to lose weight because I want to be more confident at work.” This is real inner competitive drive. You have to want something and know why you want it. If you don’t know why you want it, you might as well be throwing darts at a dart board, in the dark, while spinning around in circles. Yes, there will be things outside of your control during your journey, but that’s ok. You just need to focus on what you can control, control it, and you will see success.
Whether you are ultra-competitive, or not competitive at all, focusing on yourself will yield equal dividends. All it takes is a drive to improve yourself. You are the one standing in your way to get to your goals. You are your. only competition. For the most part, no one really cares what path you take to get to your end goal, all they care about is that you achieved it. So, don’t worry about what others are doing, don’t worry about things you can’t control, and focus on what you are doing and what you can control. Commit to besting yourself.
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