Every day we tell ourselves a story in our head. It is the story of us, our successes and our failures. This story in turn, shapes our mindset and influences future stories we tell ourselves. Some people are aware of this internal monologue, while others are not. Whether you realize it or not, you are telling yourself a story each and every second of every day. If you want to accomplish any goal you have, it starts with telling yourself the right story.
Henry Ford once famously said, “If you think you can do a thing or you think you can’t, you’re right.” Such a powerful statement with so much truth to it. Success and failure are both choices. If we think we will succeed, we will. If we think we will fail, we will. The story we tell ourselves determine serve as positive or negative confirmation of what we want to do. If you tell yourself there’s no way you can commit three days per week to eating right and working out, you won’t do it. On the other hand, if you tell yourself you can eat right and workout 3 days per week, you’ll be more likely to identify opportunities to get the job done and overcome any challenges in your way.
Fear plays a big role in the stories we tell ourselves. Whether we are afraid to fail, afraid to be laughed at, afraid of the expectation once we succeed, or any other fear, that impacts the story we tell ourselves. It is totally normal to have fear, it’s a survival instinct we are all programmed with. What we do with that fear and how we internalize it is what leads to a positive or negative story.
Think about 2 people for a moment. Both are overweight and are becoming increasingly self-isolated as they no longer have as much confidence to go out with friends on the weekends. Both of them are telling themselves the same story. Then one night, both of them stubble across a post about CrossFit and dive down a rabbit hole of CrossFit content. Both see a wide variety of people doing exercise they have never seen before. Both recognize that to get their confidence back, they need to get into the gym with the help of a professional, but both are fearful that they won’t know what they are doing in the gym and everyone will laugh at them. They both now have a decision in the story they are telling themselves. “Do I let my fear stop me from taking the next step, or do I use that fear to move me to the edge of my comfort zone and find out if I can do this?” Person 1 decides to book and intro and take the opportunity to learn more about how the gym can help them. Person 2 lets the fear overcome them and decides not to book, and remains in the same place, sad and unconfident.
Which story do you want to tell yourself? The story of success or the story of failure. Whichever one you tell yourself; it will come true. Choose wisely. If you need some help writing the next part of your story, book a No Sweat Intro and one of our amazing coaches will help you out!